We find ourselves thrust into a deadly conflict of potentially very large scale. This conflict may proceed in several different directions, some of which might prove quite destructive, involving high numbers of further civilian casualties on all sides. There are lessons to be drawn from both theory and practice in the field of conflict resolution that may be helpful in considering how to proceed. In this paper, we review a few important concepts from the field of conflict resolution, attempt to point out where some of these dynamics are occurring in the current situation, and highlight some potential pitfalls. Specific policy recommendations based on this analysis are offered, and the question of how we can best ensure that our response to the attacks does not lead to a degenerative cycle of violence that further destabilizes the Middle East and undermines American long-term interests is addressed.